Not So Strong is a black woman led movement that seeks to broaden the view of black women beyond the impenetrable, strong black woman, and seeks to empower women by finding strength through acknowledging and cultivating vulnerability. We can and DO wear many hats, and regularly withstand challenging circumstances with grace and poise as a means of social survival. However, at times, this same expectation of black women can be limiting, and cause us to feel that we ALWAYS need to both be and appear strong and in control, leaving no room for vulnerability.
At Not So Strong, we know that Black women deserve to experience a wide range of feelings and experiences with compassion and encouragement towards growth and understanding, neither of which can happen without room to be our real selves and all that comes with.
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Licensed Psychologist, Daughter, Sister, Friend, Aunt, Runner (kinda)
I’m a black woman healer who created a platform to meet the mental health needs of my local and global community. With a growing solo practice and active social & family life, I spend most of my time with all kinds of people; learning, growing and loving. Born to Caribbean immigrants, I have always been fascinated with how the dynamics of ethnic and gendered culture and childhood influence emotional attachment in relationships. Through this lens, I have worked with hundreds of clients to help them understand how their individual attachment styles influence their relationship patterns. Specifically, a large part of my research and clinical focus has been on the needs of black women across the African diaspora and how our social/political histories impact our needs, behaviors and development. I use empowerment, compassion and connection to help women reach their goals in major areas of life--understanding self and making better decisions, career goals, and love worthiness in all relationships.
KIMBERLY SANDERS, M.D.
Licensed Psychiatrist, mom of 2 under 3, wife, small business owner, daughter, friend.
I have spent a large part of my career working in spaces dealing with traumatic experiences. I have recently had the opportunity to expand services to many college age young women, and realized that issues related to self esteem and worthiness seemed to be a common aspect of these women’s narratives. I wanted to understand it better through a therapeutic lens and began reading on the topic. It quickly became apparent that this book was also for me and my personal life. When I took inventory, I realized that I too struggled with issues of worthiness that were impacting my daily life. And so the journey began, and continues- to live life fully, to be fully invested in the relationships that I have chosen, and to be able to share these gifts with my children.